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Tips for Parents -  Helping Your Boy Learn
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The following is not intended as medical, psychological, counseling or any other professional advice or recommendation. It is provided as educational information only.

  1. Ask your boy, “How was your day?”   Do it every day, and of course listen to his response.  If you get too short a response for two days in a row, ask a follow up question. Do not always inquire about homework or school as the only area of concern.

  2. Every day, tell your boy, “You are a good kid.”

  3. Allow and encourage computer work.  Instead of saying “playing on the computer” ask your boy “what are you working on your computer.”

  4. Minimize punishment for behavior that does not hurt others.

  5. Give him $10.   Immediate, unexpected reward is great reinforcement.
  6. Advocate for your boy.  It is important for your boy to know you are supportive and willing to help.

  7. Talk to teachers.  Engage with teachers as often as you need to.

  8. Talk to your doctor, and get a second opinion if you feel it is warranted, on medicine. This is not medical advice, nor advocating medicine.

  9. Guys are critical.  Dads, older brothers, male supervisors at work, help your boy have a male role model.  Guys don’t need to do a lot, they just need to do and say a little and it goes a long ways.  Talk to your husband/companion about a few positive things to do or say.  Explain the ‘deal’ with boys (neurology).

  10. Explore alternatives to your current school.  Not every situation is right for everyone. Explore other public schools, virtual schools, home schooling, tutoring.

  11. Talk to school counselors.  If you get a good school counselor, use her or him when you need to. They can be a positive help in working with teachers.

  12. Ask about modifications.  Changing a teacher, course subject, day or time.  Just as your boy has a certain learning style, a teacher has a given teaching style. Not every teacher can respond to every student. So see if you have options.

  13. Talk to other parents.  It helps.

  14. Let your boy know what is up with Smart Boys, Bad Grades.  It’s not an excuse, but it is a reality.  Go with your hunch. As a parent, you know the most about your boy.
Tips for Parents -  Helping Your Boy Learn
© 2004 by LERN.    With William A. Draves
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